Being an adult stinks sometimes. When I was a kid, I used to dream of who I would marry, what my kids would be like, where I would live, what vacations we would take. I never considered tragedy would strike, but unfortunately, it does.
This post is dedicated to a few special moms in my life that have all gone through the worst tragedy any mother could face - the death of a child. These women are role models of faith, that I admire, but they never signed up to be role models. They just wanted to be mamas. I know they appreciate the phone calls, texts, and cards telling them how in awe of their strength we are, but that's not what they really want. They want a few more minutes reading bedtime stories to their babies. They don't want to hear how you hugged your child a little tighter tonight; they just want to cuddle with their baby a little longer. Whether they lost their child as a sweet infant, an ambitious child, or as an adult, their pain is the same. We, as friends, try to say the right things, but often that falls short. Our pity doesn't bring their babies back.
So, what can we do? We can pray. There is another person who knows what it is like to lose a son and He's our Heavenly Father. We can pray to Him fervently and pray that He will provide their needs, whether it's peace, comfort, or understanding. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
Grief is a journey and no two people will follow the same path on the journey. Continue to reach out to your friends. You never know when the hand you extend to them will be exactly what they need on that particular day.
If you're reading this and it applies to you, please know we mean well. We never want to deepen your pain. We are probably going to say the wrong thing at the wrong time. And, please do not think that we don't want to hear about your precious kids, because we do! Even if we never met them, we love to see your face light up as you talk about their personalities! Really, we want to talk about anything that brings a smile to your face. We love you.
I'm linking up with Beth at Our Pretty Little Girls for Tuesday Talk.